It’s a Useless Investment of Time

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Even though locating love could be viewed as an online competition by many in today’s society, a considerable number of Gen Z-ers are abandoning the apps and seeking someone face-to-face.

An overwhelming 65 percent of dating apps are removed within a month, according to a recent survey by AppsFlyer. Moreover, 90 percent of those who uninstall the apps do so within a week.

“Eradicating dating apps is a revolt against the digital dating scene that many people find superficial and draining,” stated Morgan Anderson, an authorized clinical psychologist and relationship mentor, in an interview with Newsweek. “The trend of reverting to ‘dating in the wild’ is a welcome change for countless daters who feel exhausted from ceaseless swiping and failed connections.”

Dating apps became part of everyday life following the advent of Tinder and its more relationship-oriented competitors, Bumble and Hinge, with numerous distinct dating platforms continuing to emerge in an attempt to attract singles.

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A young woman walks past a billboard advertisement for Tinder on February 18, 2019, in Berlin, Germany. Tinder has emerged as one of the most popular dating apps.

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However, it may no longer be worthwhile, according to some Gen Z women.

24-year-old Brianna Spinella, from Staten Island, stated she removed the apps when she realized the meticulous criteria she input didn’t matter.

“The apps displayed whoever they pleased, and it was always the same individuals,” Spinella disclosed to Newsweek. Even when I tried modifying my location as Hinge permits, it had no effect. None of the people matched my wavelength, and most sought casual encounters.”

While the apps provide a way to become acquainted with individuals one typically wouldn’t encounter, they also enable more people to remain concealed behind screens and discourage in-person interactions, Spinella explained.

“These apps have shifted focus towards making money, purchasing flowers, and enhancing profiles, consequently becoming increasingly disingenuous,” Spinella remarked.

Despite growing up in a culture of online dating, prone to casual encounters, numerous Gen Z-ers are internally challenging this new trend.

Another woman, Alice, who has abandoned dating apps and wishes to use an alias, mentioned that these apps make it nearly impossible to find love due to the broad target audience.

“‘Dating’ encompasses individuals who wish to marry at the earliest opportunity, individuals averse to marriage, those unclear about their goals, etc.,” Alice conveyed to Newsweek.” All of these individuals are in the same place, swiping on one another, and to make matters worse, you have the option to falsely declare your readiness for a connection.”

Similarly, Hinge permits users to state they are seeking a short-term or long-term relationship. However, Alice revealed that typically, this means men are merely seeking casual encounters. Additionally, men may also falsely tout their readiness for a long-term relationship to appear more “marketable,” she added.

Additionally, another woman, Madison, also utilizing an alias, asserted that while she hasn’t necessarily uninstalled the apps, she no longer opens them, disclosing to Newsweek.

“It’s mainly conversations, and people are seldom willing to meet in person. They also tend to be flaky,” Madison stated to Newsweek. “It requires a lot of energy to meet someone, and the vast majority of time, it’s pointless. Years ago, I met someone I cared for through an app, so I understand it’s possible, but it’s all become daunting. There are hundreds of matches, and you might meet one out of a hundred.”

It’s not only women who are becoming exasperated with dating apps, either.

While women may voice concerns about the quality of men or the challenge of finding someone who desires more than a casual encounter, men report different but nonetheless vexing issues.

Many men state it takes weeks to receive just a few matches, and responses are few and far between. An early report discovered that 50 percent of female likes are directed towards a mere 15 percent of male users on apps. This prompts some to consider purchasing the premium tiers of dating apps in hopes of attaining more likes – ultimately leading them to question their self-worth.

44-year-old Jimmy Thakkar admitted to removing his app after noticing the prevalence of fake and AI profiles. He also observed that genuine profiles were predominantly available to those paying for a subscription.

“I initially downloaded the app to find compatible dates,” Thakkar explained to Newsweek. “But I had to delete it due to numerous fake profiles and others without display pictures.”

The skepticism towards dating apps isn’t limited to the youth. Elderly individuals are similarly hesitant about the apps when it comes to finding love.

In her 50s, Jackie Pilossoph, founder of the website Divorced Girl Smiling, joined a dating app and removed it within a week of using it.

Despite the criticism dating apps face regarding their impact on modern dating, Pilossoph doesn’t entirely blame the app developers.

“I don’t believe dating apps have failed people,” Pilossoph expressed to Newsweek. “The users of dating apps have let others down.”

“Numerous individuals utilizing dating apps have forgotten that the people they disregard or send inappropriate messages to also have feelings. It’s simpler to disrespect others when hiding behind a dating app,” Pilossoph added.

Looking to the future, Pilossoph expects a shift in how people approach their dating lives in the near future.

“People will focus on setting boundaries and being more deliberate about their desires,” Pilossoph remarked. “When people are genuinely invested in their app activity, they prefer not to engage in endless conversations with multiple people and would rather meet face-to-face.”

The increasing use of artificial intelligence could mean a decrease in the use of dating apps in the near future. Users find it difficult to distinguish between conversing with a real person and an AI bot, making the quest for love even more challenging.

“I believe AI will render all chat-based dating apps outmoded in the next few years,” Skip app’s CEO and Founder Scott Avy conveyed to Newsweek. “Recent AI developments like chat GPT raise suspicions about whether you are conversing with an AI bot or a human before a date, rendering chat an ineffective way of vetting potential dates. These advancements influence people’s trust in chat as a reliable means of evaluating potential dates.”

Skip attempts to circumvent this obstacle by immediately arranging an in-person meeting for users once they connect on the app, eliminating the need for chat.

Yet, what of the many happy couples who met through dating apps?

Although research indicates that 39 percent of couples met online, it’s exceedingly rare for someone to say they enjoyed dating on apps, Rachel Abramowitz, CEO of relationship tool Keepler, stated.

“I’ve never encountered someone who said, ‘You know what, I loved dating on these apps. It was a fulfilling and enriching experience,'” Abramowitz disclosed to Newsweek. “Most people, when successful, barely make it.”